He started it.
I wasn’t even going to post about the Father’s Day speech because there was no policy in it and as far as I could tell there was just the usual sound and fury swirling around it. Then Big Man starts posting on it and now I have something to say.
This is one of my biggest pet peeves and I have to credit it to Papa G. Apathy, in general, will make me nutso faster than just about anything else, but the apathy and general ineffectiveness and downright laziness of the Black church in America can take me into a full on Poltergeist 360 headspin.
If all these preachers really cared about the baby mamas and daddies we would see some action. A sermon is not action. Action is speaking with a school principal or district officer and finding some of these young girls either still in school or not and bringing them into the church family. Help them raise that child, help them strengthen themselves and most of all help them to break the cycle of 40 something grannies. And while you’re at it go find that young man wherever he is and bring him in too. Help him to see not only his obligations, but the love and joy he can have as a father. Help that family to come together around that child. Help those two young people to pull themselves together and up. Pick one a year if you want to start small, but do something. Do something to change your community.
Churches are supposed to be houses of worship, but all too often they are wasted space. Bible study, choir rehearsal and worship are all extremely important, but so are soup kitchens and after school programs and day care and job training. You have all that space and you (should) have all that love. Why let it just sit?
The Children’s Defense Fund will help you set up Saturday schools to teach our young people self esteem and give them not only a safe place to play in the summers but a head start in school. Call them.
Call your city hall and ask for a list of non profits in your area, then call some and see what kind of help they need.
Take a couple Sundays to pass out surveys to your congregation to see what they think the most important issue in your community is. Once you have identified it (or go crazy and pick the top three) make a plan to do something about it.
The Black church has always been the heart of the Black community, but for a while there it was the brain and the guts as well. Where we could not only seek guidance and support for our spiritual walk but for our earthly march. What happened?
Whether you agree with what Obama said or where he said it one thing is for certain, the generations of single parent children who follow him will probably be a lot less nice about it. We have let them go. We have turned our backs. We listen to fiery sermons and we say Amen. Until the words are joined with action though, I don't think we can get too upset when one of those abandoned children grows up and throws it in our faces.
Friday, June 20
He started it.